My older sister was in Japan when it was her year to attend the Coming of Age Ceremony in Japan. I, on the other hand, was in Fredericton when it was my year. My younger sister is in Montreal this year for her year too so the neither one of us got to attend the ceremony. If we were in Japan, we would dress up traditionally in a Kimono, attend the ceremony at the local prefectural office, get pictures taken, and after, go out drinking with friends and/or family. The Coming of Age Day falls on the second Monday of January every year. I’ve been in Montreal with my sister for the past 2 weeks, so I was with her on the day of her “Coming of Age” day (Monday, 9 January 2017). We got to thinking, why not celebrate my “belated” and her current Coming of Age day, but with our special little twist – we talked about adulthood and took photos and drank a couple beers.
(More photos coming soon xx)
So what does it mean to walk into adulthood really? Does it come announced like we all think?
I feel like I’ve felt pretty “adult” since I was at least 17 years old, when I moved away from my family to go to university in Canada alone. Just like that I went from a teenager living under her parents’ protection to a young adult, alone and trying to adapt to the culture and values in what felt to me like an alien country for the longest time.
For me, becoming an adult meant I had to look after myself; making decisions that would change the course of my life at every turn; dealing with the consequence of each decision I made; and most importantly, doing things I didn’t necessarily want to do because I “had to”. This, however, is nothing I didn’t know already. My mother told me over and over again for as long as I can remember – I remember not being able to wait until i was an “adult” so i could put makeup on, go wherever I wanted to go and do whatever I felt like doing; I couldn’t wait to make my own decisions. Little did I know that adulthood was going to be so hard. Turns out my mom was right, once you hit adulthood, you wish for the carefree times of your youth.